Separation from children: What I learned from separation

Separation, especially from children, is painful. Two moms and a dad talk about what they wish they knew before – and what they would do differently now.

November 20, 2025, 05:25

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Flight attendant D. (36) reflects on her separation and failed couples therapy, which she found stressful. Journalist Lukas (35) talks about the challenges of managing separation from children and reflects on the division of roles. Yoga teacher Caroline (62) recommends discussing possible breakup scenarios and seeking external help before starting a family. Despite different experiences, everyone involved emphasized the importance of clear agreements and respectful communication, especially with regard to children’s welfare. These stories make it clear that separation from a child is a long process that requires a reflective approach.

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D. (36), flight attendant, one son (5)

We separated in the summer of 2023. Our son was three years old at the time. The breakup was to be expected, but I kept trying until the end to bring us back together. For example, I made an appointment with a couples therapist, and it was very painful. Because of my ex-partner, I became a person I didn’t want to be and didn’t know. Shortly before therapy there was an argument. He said he regretted having kids, so I punched him in the shoulder and it turned blue. I know that physical violence is impossible. I was very surprised at myself and immediately apologized. This only happened once.