“Yesterday I woke up… arriving,” Rosalía said. While it may seem like a singular lyric from a song, it is a statement from the singer The revolt, where he explained that although his libido decreased during phases of stress, the night before the program he had had a dream that he defined as “curious”. “I woke up feeling like I had just had an orgasm… It happened to me five or six times,” the Catalan said. His words have already entered the program, as Broncano has added the score of 1.2 points for “lucid dreaming” to his particular sexual scale.
“I have a patient I’m working with on the problem of anorgasmia and the same thing happens to Rosalía,” she says Fashion S Eva Moreno, sexologist, couples therapist and founder of Tapesex. “Men tend to have these types of dreams during adolescence while we tend to experience them starting from the age of 35 or 40. Since orgasms actually occur in the brain, when you have an erotic dream, in REM sleep, the body may have the ability to realize them. The genitals are activated, lubrication is activated and the clitoris is also aroused, so ultimately the orgasm occurs without the woman controlling the situation,” explains the sexologist from Gleeden.
Anna Sánchez, a sexologist from Platalomelón, also applauds another statement from Rosalía in which she confessed to living a period of “celibacy”. “The singer says she’s willing to practice voluntary sexual abstinence and her words show that the body might complain about not having those orgasms. I like the fact that she approaches it naturally because it’s something that helps a lot of women talk about these issues,” she says. “It’s wonderful that someone with such a platform and so much influence speaks freely about sexuality without the fear that so many influential people have that what they say might be taken out of context. I’m happy that so many people liked that Rosalía, so spiritual, spoke about it. I think that spirituality can be closely related to sexuality, because they are forms of self-knowledge. They have in common that idea of looking within, of believing in something magnificent that is beyond and that is profound and that connects us all,” she explains.
Sexologist Ana Lombardía comments that these lucid dreams do not interfere at all with her voluntary celibacy. “In fact, many people who have decided not to have sex because they need a break, have been in an accident, or need to focus on other aspects of their life, turn to masturbation as a way to continue enjoying their sexuality. And if that doesn’t break celibacy, neither do these dreams,” he says.
“Orgasm is a natural part of lucid dreaming: my experience convinces me that conscious dreaming is orgasmic,” says psychologist Patricia Garfield, who notes that two-thirds of her lucid dreams have sexual content and that about half of them culminate in orgasm. In Road to ecstasy (Prentice Hall Direct, 1990), the psychologist comments that she feels such orgasms “with a fullness of being that is sometimes felt in the waking state” and that on many occasions she has surprised herself by “exploding in explosions” that have shaken her soul and body.
Can everyone have orgasms in dreams?
Lucía Jiménez, sexologist at Diversual, answers. “On a theoretical and anatomical level, it is assumed that all women can squirt and be multi-orgasmic. Unfortunately, even if everyone is physiologically prepared, not everyone is able to achieve it. The same thing happens with these types of dreams. In principle anyone can have these wet dreams and the resulting orgasms but in practice there are those who can’t,” she clarifies. “The orgasms that Rosalía talks about occur mainly in the phases of sleep in which there are many contractions at the pelvic level and therefore more blood flow in the genital area. Men can have spontaneous erections in this phase. It must be clarified that it is not necessary to dream of something erotic; sometimes these sensations are generated until they lead to orgasm”, explains the sexologist.
“The wonderful thing about Rosalía’s words is that she demonstrated on a prime time program that female desire exists and does not depend exclusively on a partner. Furthermore, it does not have to resemble that of a man. We have become accustomed to them being the ones who deal with these problems naturally, so what the singer has done is something to celebrate,” she says.
Anna Sánchez explains that when you go to sleep in times of stress, lowering your guard and the body revolutions and even turning off a part of the brain, you can reawaken these stimuli. “They don’t even have to do with desire, but with physiology,” he clarifies. Finally, for many people, dreams are a liberating moment in which they can experience pleasure… Is it possible to “hack” these lucid dreams? Eva Moreno assures yes. “You can achieve a leading process in two ways. The first is by entering the dream and generating erotic fantasies. The second is by leading the dream towards such fantasies when there is a moment of lucid dreaming in which one is aware of dreaming, taking advantage of that awareness. For those who also have a high level of sexual activity during a specific season, because the body is in that harmony, it will be easier for them to achieve that experience while they sleep,” he explains. And now, happy dreams!
